Expectation

Expectation is the root of heartache, yet we can't avoid from having them. We tend to create images of the future we hope to happen. Future then becomes a place where we believe things would be easier and life would be nicer. However, often, when we reach the 'future', we are surprised; sometimes disappointed, that future is nothing like what we had been expecting for.

When we are working on a project we have been spending days and nights with, we expect things to work out well.

When we are moulding a clay we have spent thousands on, we expect the figurine to turn out well.

When we have prepared everything for a disaster, we expect ourselves to live safe and sound.

That's logic.

We expect every single thing that we do, decide or commit now will pay off in the future. 

Why? Because it motivates us to be persistently positive when dealing with failure, disappointment and deadlock and it will keep us going; even when we have no faith in it anymore. We believe that tomorrow would be kinder towards us especially after all that we have sacrificed, given and lost.

Bad enough, life is not based on logic.

Life is seasonal and unpredictable.

Yet no matter how far I go with expecting, I always remind myself not to expect from people. 

When you do good deeds, never expect the people to do the same to you as too frequent, they won't.

When you sacrifice for someone, never expect them to do the same as too frequent, they won't. 

When you hand your shoulder for someone to cry on, never expect to have theirs when you are in need as too frequent, they won't. 

When you have successfully pulled someone out from their misery, never expect for their hands to pull you out from yours as too frequent, they won't,

Worst is if you are just an ordinary person with no cash to treat people in luxurious cafes, no pair of shoes from the famous brand line and no asymmetrical shape face to fit in the group. It's been long since money, luxury and beauty become the human's Gods. 

Your readiness to give and spend more of your time, energy and support to someone nowadays might no longer be viewed either as an act of kindness or generosity. It's long gone for now kindness and generosity are for the rich. Both depends on one's readiness to spend money, money and money to someone else. Thus, when you are kind and generous to someone, don't expect anything in return for perhaps, there is a conflict between the definition of kindness and generosity in your and someone else's dictionary. The same goes to other terms ever invented. 

If you want to expect, set expectations on your career advancement and self-development. Put every sweat in for you are your most important asset. 

If you have worked very hard, been in every challenge possible and experienced a lot of self-defeating moments, reflect on your doings, work harder and keep expecting. It is fine to expect from your career advancement and self-development for both would benefit you. That if everything turns out badly, you still have something to learn and ponder about; sometimes to hang on. Your constant work in advancing your career and developing yourself will pay off. It is the only situation in which the quote:

 

can be related.

I urge you to stop expecting from people and start expecting more of yourself; in term of career advancement and self-development. 

People are unreliable. You can't rely on someone else but yourself.